Membership Application and Waiver

By applying for membership to NU Lifestyle, I (we) agree to abide by the following event rules:

NU Lifestyle Rules and Code of Conduct

  1. No means no. If a member’s invitation to engage in consensual sexual activity with another member is refused or declined, the member must accept the refusal. Unsolicited or unwanted touching of another member is prohibited.
  2. Discretion is non-negotiable. You may not release the identity of other members in attendance at a NU Lifestyle event. Who attends and what happens at an event is not yours to discuss with anyone outside of NU Lifestyle.
  3. The following acts or form of play are prohibited at a NU Lifestyle event:
    1. Electro-Play. The practice of using electrical stimulation to the nerves of the body using a power source (such as a TENS, EMS, Violet wand, or made-for-play units) for purposes of sexual stimulation, body modification, tickling, or torture.
    2. Golden showers. Urinating on, or being urinated on by, another person.
    3. Scat play. Also knows as faeces play. If you are found doing this, you will be banned for life without exception.
  4. NU Lifestyle is an inclusive facility, meaning that we accept all genders and (sexual) orientations. All members must conduct themselves in a mature, courteous and responsible manner and be respectful of other members and staff.
  5. The use of cameras or video recording devices is strictly prohibited. Please alert staff if you suspect someone of using recording devices in the event.
  6. NU Lifestyle Management is not responsible for lost or stolen personal articles.
  7. Members acknowledge that sexual activity, nudity and partial nudity occur on event premises and that as a member, you are in no way offended by such activity. Further, each member acknowledges that all sexual activities that they may engage in on event premises are consensual in nature, not undertaken under duress and not undertaken in exchange for financial compensation. 
  8. Memberships are non-refundable or transferable.
  9. Members acknowledge that shoes are not to be worn on furniture and that members are responsible for damage caused by heels or shoes on furniture.
  10. NU Lifestyle members acknowledge, especially if you choose to consume alcohol/drugs, that they do so at their own risk. NU Lifestyle does not provide alcohol/drugs to any member or at any event hosted by NU Lifestyle.
    • Illegal or illicit drugs are not permitted at NU Lifestyle, the use or possession of such will result in the immediate revocation of membership and a lifetime ban.
    • NU lifestyle does not take any responsibility for a member or public person to have a safe ride home, hotel, or any place after leaving an event. Anyone attending an event at NU Lifestyle, or sponsored by NU Lifestyle is responsible for their own, safe way home.
    • All attendees are responsible for their own consumption and are expected to keep consumption reasonable.  Intoxicated individuals will be asked to leave any event.
  11. No drinks may be taken outside of the event. Only bottle(s) may be taken from the event for the purpose of taking the bottle(s) home with you.
  12. NU Lifestyle is an entirely smoke-free venue. There is no smoking permitted anywhere on the premises, other than posted, designated smoking areas. This means smoking cigarettes, e-cigarettes, marijuana, or the like.

Dress Code

Just like any other high-class establishment, we have a strict dress code in effect. We take pride in offering the best experience possible for our members, which is reflected in our dress code.

Would you be interested in having fun with other members that didn’t bother to take the time to look their best? Probably not. And this is why we have a dress code in place – To make the NU Lifestyle event as appealing as possible for everyone.

The following items are NOT permitted at NU Lifestyle events:

  • Shorts
  • Sandals
  • Caps, hats or bandannas
  • Jerseys
  • Worn out jeans
  • Running shoes
  • Any other items of clothing that we deem in inappropriate

Except for theme or costume parties, the rules regarding our dress code will be strictly enforced. We reserve the right to deny you entry at the door if you don’t meet our standards. Dress your best, and you should have no issues.

As a general rule, to maximize your experience at NU lifestyle events and garner the type of attention you are looking for, we say it’s essential to DRESS TO IMPRESS!

If you have any questions about your attire and what is and is not permissible at the event, please call us anytime to discuss the dress code.

NU Lifestyle Event Schedule

Nights with no theme:

  • 9:00 pm – 10:30 pm – Cocktail hour
    • Members will be dressed like they are at a 5-star restaurant. (we are still open to the public – no nudity).
  • 10:30 pm – 2:00 am – The doors will be locked
    • Time to get more comfortable.
  • 2:00 am – Closing time
    • Get a safe ride home to recover from your NU experience.

Theme nights:

  • 9:00 pm – 10:30 pm – Cocktail hour
    • Members will be dressed in accordance with the theme (we are still open to the public – no nudity).
  • 10:30 pm – 2:00 am – The doors will be locked
    • Time to get more comfortable.
  • 2:00 am – Closing time
    • Get a safe ride home to recover from your NU experience.


NU Lifestyle Tips

Be Friendly and courteous.

The number one way to “not get laid” in any situation, especially in the swinging lifestyle, is to be rude and anti-social. You will find that you make friends with way more couples by simply smiling, saying hello and engaging in conversations. If someone offers you something you are not interested in, no need to be rude, a simple “No Thank You” will do.

No Means No

You will hear this over and over again. When a person or a couple says, “No, Thank You,” they really mean it, and it’s time for you to back off. Harassment will not be tolerated, and by disregarding this rule, you are asking for a one-way ticket out of every single lifestyle event. Be respectful of others and their preferences. Do not take personal offence. No means “NO.”

Ask First

It’s easy to fall into the trap of the misguided notion that it is a free for all and you could just touch whatever you see without asking. It’s actually quite the opposite.

  • You might get punched in the face
  • It’s insulting and not accepted.

Unless permission was given, if you see something you like, ask first before you touch. You can first start by paying a compliment, then asking nicely if you may touch or have a dance with someone that does not belong to you. Whatever it is you want to do with another couple, start by asking first.

Respect the boundaries of others

Everyone has the right to be where he or she is at in the swinging lifestyle. There is no minimum or maximum level of participation requirements. Every couple has their own preferences, and others should respect those preferences. Do not force anyone to like the things that you like, as well as you should not judge others for what they are into. The most beautiful thing about the lifestyle community is it provides a safe place for those looking to exploring their fantasies and sexuality without pressure or judgment. Allow others to truly enjoy that freedom.

No Drama

It’s not very often, but it’s quite normal for couples to disagree while at a party. This is mostly due to a lack of communication. It’s ok. It happens. This, however, does not mean you get to ruin the night of everyone else by arguing or fighting where everyone else can see or hear you. Take your drama home or to the car. If you can’t work out your drama, it’s best to stay home until you are ready to communicate correctly and be a part of the lifestyle community.

Dress to get laid

When we talk about dressing, it’s not just about what you are wearing. It’s everything from attire to the way you groom yourself. If you are going to venture into the swinging lifestyle, consider that you have may have to go back to the days when you were single and cared about how you look, when you were trying to get laid or meet someone. You are not an insurance sales guy, so no need to come dressed in a suit and tie. For the guys, a nice collared shirt, nice jeans and a nice pair of designer shoes will do. Don’t forget a fresh haircut, shower and shave your private parts. Ladies, this is your opportunity to bring out your inner sexy. The ladies are the center of attention, so you want to dress the part. Sexy lingerie, club dresses, costumes, whatever you please, as long as you make sure it compliments your body very well.

Lifestyle events are fun, and everyone usually is very respectful. The level of respect and fun you find at swinger’s parties, you will be hard to find the same at your regular vanilla bar. Most lifestyle couples and singles know and follow these unspoken rules, which leads to a good time for all.